On knowing what you like in the bedroom

Sex is cool. I like sex. You know what else is cool? Not liking sex. If you’re one of those people like me who enjoys sex, you’ll probably have a kink or two, or not, but you’ll probably have some idea of what you’re into. This is a good thing. It’s good to know what you like. This is a sex positive safe space for us all to explore ourselves.

Life is too short for shitty sex. It’s also too short to drink shitty alcohol, but that’s a story for another day.

It took me a while to figure out what I actually like in the bedroom (and outside of it, though tree branches in the arse aren’t fun, FYI). By no stretch of the imagination have I tried everything I want to try and know everything that I like – I don’t think I ever will. But sex is nothing to be ashamed of and by knowing what you like, you can work on getting it. This also ties in with knowing how to get off and exploring your own body – something I also like to touch on a lot (pun intended).


Obviously, you won’t be sexually compatible with everyone you sleep with and you won’t share the same kinks all the time,  but when you do it’s pretty cool. I’ve never been one to shy away from talking about sex and masturbation and a couple of my good friends are the same, so we’ve had some cool conversations sharing sex tips and advice on what toys to buy and where has the best deals, which I love.

The flipside of this is knowing what you don’t like, which is perfectly ok. I’m open to trying most things but there are certain things I’m definitely not ok with and don’t want to try, which is perfectly fine. I’m not saying I won’t change my mind in the future, but for now I know what I don’t want and I know I won’t be pressured into trying anything I’m not ok with.

The moral of this random collection of opinions is that knowing what you like and what you don’t like is totally cool. Also if you fancy sex outside then I would recommend staying away from trees.

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